I live in the Essex, Bergen, Passaic county area and my mom and brother live on SI
it is about a 40 minute commute to them
To the city is 30-40 minutes.
My 2 boys are in 8th and 9th grade
We can find the house you are looking for here.
You can also look in the MIddlesex area where they have a train to the city about 45 minutes
and then you are only 20 minutes from SI
let me know if I can help you