It's hard to follow you. The house was left to your wife, right? But it sounds like the asset wasn't transferred properly to your wife as the new owner? And there are things that you are not talking about, because you seem to be worried about losing the house, right? So, I can't say that we actually know everything that's going on.
Has anyone been paying the Property Tax on the house while you have been living there? I really hope so!
You should IMMEDIATELY go down to your city hall and talk to someone there. Also try writing out everything - and PLEASE use nice short sentences with periods and commas. It's a real pain to follow you with one long run-on stream of words.