I wrote, "I don't think a lender has an ethical obligation to protect our client relationship, Marcia."
Marcia wrote back, "Wait until it happens to you."
So, my reply is: I don't think a lender has an ethical obligation to protect our client relationship, Marcia.
Of course, it bites that you don't get to double end this deal. I think all of us have had buyers take our preferred lender list and roll it up to wipe bird poop off their windshields, then gone off to a loan rep who has tried to steer them to their preferred real estate agent. That's the way it is.
- I will never send anyone to this lender again.
What's changed? You never sent anyone to them before!
I know this is upsetting, BUT. Deep breath, you'll get the listing sold and closed, and you can move on.
All the best,