Viviane Schaller, Relocation Specialist
Silicon Valley Corporate Relocation
Think hard about the lifestyle you want. Not sure how old you are, but the Peninsula towns are very suburban (kids, schools, quiet, commuters). Many of my single friends enjoy SF for the nightlife, the culture, the restaurants, etc. Once you're in the suburbs, it is not as easy as you think to get into the SF and deal with the hassle of parking, etc. But the commute is also a pain, so if you're both mainly homebodies, then Peninsula living isn't too bad, particularly with a "town-city" like PA that has a decent downtown. If not, however, then I think you might find PA a bit boring if you don't have a family and kids.
Welcome to the bay area. It is wondreful here.
Dave's advice is very sound and if I were you thatt is what I would do.
Also as Terri pointed out it all depends if you wish to live in the city or the subs.
Feel free to contact me if you have any questions.
Make sure to rent before you purchase. This will allow you time to find out where you would really like to live. You cannot afford to make a mistake in real estate, it's to costly.
The best place to find a rental is Craigslist, or you can contact http://www.Faytherentalqueen.com or Femarie@aol.com 650-455-6072.
I have clients who work exactly where you and your boyfriend will work, Palo Alto and S.F. They picked San Mateo because it's in the middle, she drives 25-30 minutes, and he takes the train.