What features do you think are necessary in a home to keep you and your significant other happily in love?

Asked by Emily Erekuff, Menifee, CA Thu Feb 5, 2009

His and her closets? A dish washer and garbage disposal? A jacuzzi tub?
Valentine's day is coming up and we want to know what you think is needed for the two of you to cohabitate blissfully.

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Ken Shuman, Home Owner, San Francisco, CA
Fri Feb 6, 2009
Top 5 attributes in a home that would be great for my relationship include:

1. an outdoor hot tub where we could enjoy a glass of wine under the stars

2. a man room for my big tv and my sports memorabilia

3. an arts and crafts room so my lady can paint, sew and crochet....she is very talented

4. his and her closets, two sinks in the bathroom and a large enough bedroom for a king size bed.

5. a nice kitchen that is functional for two people
5 votes
Danielle Laz…, Agent, San Francisco, CA
Thu Feb 5, 2009
Hey Emily,

How about hers & hers closets or his & his? Or maybe "Hers, and hers, and his...Three's Company too!" ;)

Frankly, I'd say a room with a door so you can get some privacy when you need it. Open-bedroom lofts are tough for couples...though some do it with panache!

Happy Valentine's Day, Trulia.


Danielle Lazier, San Francisco Realtor
Zephyr Real Estate
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4 votes
David Tapper, Agent, Burlingame, CA
Thu Feb 5, 2009
I nice kitchen usually makes a woman happy. But, the correct answer is whatever it takes to make her happy. A happy wife usually makes for a happy hubby. At least it does for me.

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4 votes
Heather Fern…, Home Owner, San Francisco, CA
Wed Feb 11, 2009
This one is easy: a huge kitchen, yoga room, office & separate sinks.
3 votes
Keith, , Berkeley, CA
Fri Feb 6, 2009
1. 2 separate toilets
2. Highly functional kitchen with quality appliances and sufficient counter space
3. Similar tastes in decor/design (or, designate two small spaces where each person can put whatever s/he wants in that space, regardless of what the other person thinks)
4. Enough room in the house so each can have his/her own "space" if needed
5. Space for my (I mean someone's) audio system(s), artwork and furniture

Disclaimer: The above answers do not necessarily apply to my house (well, maybe #5 does....) :)
3 votes
Rebecca White, Agent, San Francisco, CA
Thu Feb 5, 2009
An extra bedroom for “space”, a hot tub would be nice, outdoor space to enjoy and TONS of storage and an awesome walk-able neighborhood. A kitty door and a fireplace (that works!) are nice. I could care less about a kitchen as long as it has a refrigerator big enough for the wine and beer we like to drink. :) Hmmm, maybe one of those special wine fridges?

Fun to think about. Thanks for the question.

Happy V-Day!!!
P.S. I’m excited as my new beau will be cooking for me for the first time on Valentine’s Day. I’ve got the champagne already chilling!!
3 votes
The Binnings…, , San Francisco, CA
Thu Feb 5, 2009
Hey Emily,

Great question to mix things up here on the message board. Here's my take:

Necessities that make a home a home:
Pet(s) if that's your thing
Kid(s) if that's your thing

Attributes that should aid in your relationship: (in no particular order):
Double vanities in the bathroom. Sure, his and her baths are nice, but if you can't swing that, the double vanities at least keep toiletries out of each other's way. The cap off the toothpaste argument ends there.
An entertainment style kitchen... one that will provide years of enjoyment as you have friends and family over.
A private bedroom, nothing open or too close to the other rooms.
Outdoor living area.
A place for quiet privacy, such as a study or a sunroom - a place where one can cozy up with a book and not be bothered.
A cozy home makes for a happier place than a cold, drab home. Just because something looks cool in Dwell magazine doesn't mean it will be inviting when you live there.
Natural light. Not many couples can be happy living in a bat cave.
Close to work. No one comes home happy after sitting in traffic for two hours.
Close to restaurants, night life, shopping, and walkable. When you both get tired of hanging in the house you'll want the city's amenities at your doorstep.

That's about all I can think of right now. Good luck!!

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3 votes
Trulia Roger, Home Buyer, Alameda, CA
Thu Feb 5, 2009
More features: the house should be very old with lots of historical elements so you're always discovering new things (gargoyles, 100-year-old buried items in the yard, ancient termite damage, etc) for fun.
3 votes
Jed Lane, Agent, Petaluma, CA
Thu Feb 5, 2009
Love is all you need.

After that kitchen, privacy, nice yard, fireplace, walkable neighborhood, large shower.

A steady stream of money flowing through the property would be nice.
3 votes
Trulia Roger, Home Buyer, Alameda, CA
Thu Feb 5, 2009
I just need my significant other in the house. :) The cats help as well.
3 votes
Sally Rosenm…, Agent, San Francisco, CA
Thu Feb 5, 2009
Hi Emily,

Anyone would be happy with a good, loving relationship first and foremost. In my "best" home, a good kitchen is a must unless neither cooks (and these days that is sometimes the case.) Washer & dryer in the unit itself or in an easily accessible place in the home. Separate his and her baths if one can afford a place with space for that. If not, a good-sized bathroom is crucial and a jacuzzi tub that fits at least two would be fun. His and her closets are great but also not practical in many SF homes. Parking for two cars with an automatic garage door opener.

The real key is whatever each individual wants most of all and hopefully both can be accommodated!


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3 votes
Tony Abad, Agent, El Cajon, CA
Thu Feb 5, 2009
I don't think it's up to any features in a home for us. It's about us. Not a big this or an extra that. Is this really a real estate question? Okay, okay..... I'll play along. Fireplace.

3 votes
Vicky Gkiza, , San Francisco, CA
Thu Feb 5, 2009
A large kitchen so you can prepare amazing meals together. And of course her closet...his...optional!
3 votes
Neil @ Trulia, , San Francisco, CA
Mon Feb 9, 2009
Wow.... love the answers! Both hilarious and informative~

The features I can think of that would make life lived blissfully in a home are:

-cozy backyard with table and chairs for tea
-sun room to bask in the warmth of the sun, watch sunrise and sunsets
-study room for when work needs to be done
-an open kitchen to the dining and living room with a stereo system
-movie projector & cozy sofa
-washer & dryer
-closet space

Lastly, good feng shui =)
2 votes
Louis B., Tr…, Home Owner, San Francisco, CA
Thu Feb 5, 2009
A washer and dryer, ≥2 bathrooms, and a comfortable place to sit and chat.
2 votes
Jake F, Other Pro, San Francisco, CA
Thu Feb 5, 2009
A large backyard and a workshop to hide in.
1 vote
Eric Castong…, Agent, San Francisco, CA
Sat Apr 30, 2011
Separate bathrooms and Separate home offices!
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