As my three children, husband and I left the San Jose Sharks (professional hockey) game the other night, we were stuck trying to leave the stadium with 17000 other fans. A nice driver paused and waved me into the lane. We got home in about 15 minutes with no traffic at all on 280, the freeway right outside downtown SJ.
There is nothing like the quality of life here for children, families, and generally a safe and wonderful environment.
San Jose, much like New York, is broken up into dozens of neighborhoods. Each neighborhood has its own qualities. San Jose is also bordered by some great cities like Los Gatos, Cupertino, Saratoga, Mountain View and is only about a half hour from Stanford and Palo Alto -- where I grew up.
The quality of life comparison against cost per home lands well, as does the lot size. I'm not sure if you're from NY NY or upstate -- but in the general areas outlying San Jose, you experience bigger lots and more comfortable side areas between homes than in some nearby cities where homes are built tightly against each other.
I'd take San Jose over San Francisco any day!
Erica M Nelson