I live and work in Manahawkin and I'm also very involved in community activities. Both the Barnegat and Stafford branches of the Ocean County Library have many programs for children of all ages. The schools in both communities also have many sports and creative programs. And there are many independent activities from art, to soccer, to theater and science! Check out these links
Schools in Banregat...
Schools in Manahawkin (Stafford Township, Southern Regional School District)
Many families I've worked with have moved to the area because of the schools and community activities. If you'd like to chat with some of my clients please give me a call. They can answer your specific questions.
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