Every title company creates "cheat sheets" of sorts that we all get that tell us who pays for what fees, transfer taxes, and other charges. The reality is that everything is negotiable. When you do go to sell, don't be afraid to demand that your Agent negotiate for the Buyer to pay some of these charges that are typically paid by you the Seller. As a Realtor, it is my responsibility to negotiate contracts that ideally get a client exactly what they want and obviously that would include getting as much money in your pocket as possible. With that said, the Buyer and their Agent may refuse but it doesn't hurt to try. The same applies on both sides of a transaction regardless if you are a Buyer or Seller.
Which title company you use to close your transaction can effect what you pay as well. Most title and escrow companies fees are comperable these days but it does vary.
If you like, I can direct you to my contacts at the most prominent title companies in San Mateo and they can provide you with current general figures that apply to your situation in particular. They would be more than happy to do so.
Every little bit helps as well all know!