If you're from NJ you will love Cary. I relocated from NJ 10 years ago to Cary to raise my family here and we are very happy. Cary is a very large suburb of Raleigh (~140K people), close to RTP jobs, close to RDU airport, great parks system, great schools, tons of options for kids sports, dance, etc., close to all the universities and safer in comparison to raleigh and durham. Try searching for homes under Cary zip codes 27513, 27511, 27518, 27519 (a bit west). The housing options are unlimited! Apex and Morrisville are nice as well, but Holly Springs and Fuquay are a bit country. Specifically for a larger property and a pool you may want to look at the Lochmere neighborhood in Cary (and surrounding neighborhoods off of Kildare Farm Rd.), there properties are a little older (built in 90s-00) however there are larger yards and some pools.