You can put NJ on the list!
My area is Essex County - the bus ride is approximately 50 min and the mid town direct train is 30 min...many commuters also drive to Harrison (2o min drive) and take the Path train......lots of options.
I am not sure what your price range is, but townhomes in various towns in my area can range from $250,000 to 1 million - quite a wide range. It's really a wonderful area to live in - great schools, recreation, parks, and cultural activities - great shopping, too. The mall at Short Hills has all the top 5th Ave. stores - check it out!
I drive to the city often, and I can get there in under 30 min (not at rush hour, though!).
Within an hour you can be at the beautiful Jersey shore, so there is lots to offer here.
If you are primarily interested in townhome living, there are a good number of complexes, some are gated, and most have amenities like pool, tennis and clubhouses with meeting and excercise rooms.
I have lived and worked in this area my entire life, and am thoroughly familiar with all the commuinities in the area.
Please feel free to reach out to me, as I'd be happy to email you several listings to get you started.
Whatever you decide, good luck with your move!
Pprudential NJ Properties