Stay positive and you will obtain a home you want. With that said, you really need to determine how bad you want a particular house and then come in with a very stong offer, best you can for that transaction. Think of it as your "First and Final Offer" the first time you submit. Many multiple offer situations fit this scenario.
If your not working with a Realtor, you have a nice list of agents below that can assist you. Do keep in mind, even with one of these solid agents listed below or myself, the reality is that you may still run into the same scenario once or twice, since there are some strong cash buyers out there, unless you are an all cash buyer too.
There may be a higher reason for your journey and I am sure the home you want is just around the corner. One thing for sure, being in the game this long, you have had to of learned a lot about real estate, and it is only going to benefit you and those around you in the long run. Stay focused on your target as we are expecting a new wave of foreclosures to hit the market.
Stay prepared, don't get discouraged and stay in the game to win!
TV-Tracy Van De Mark