Sorry to hear about your frustration! Many of the websites out there are confusing and a rip off!
Are you interested in buying a home or renting a home?
Great places to look for rentals would be Trulia, Zillow, Craigslist, or with a property management company.
If you are interested in purchasing, speaking with a Realtor and a mortgage broker would be your first step.
Unknown to many people, there are tons of first time home buyer and down payment assistance programs out available to purchasers like yourself. With some programs you can put 0% down and only have loan fees to pay. This means you could be in a home that you own, with appreciating equity, for much less than it costs to pay someone else's mortgage (ie renting).
Questions? Give me a call :) 916-241-8788