Define N. Jersey? Commuting to the city by bus, car or train? 30-45 minute commute or 1hr? Do you have family or experiences in which N. Jersey towns? Besides the commute, what else is importsnt to you and what other things might you be looking for? Good school systems? Houses that need little or no tlc? Older or modern? Garage? Driveway? Basement? Time frame for making this move? Financing or cash purchase?
I think I need more details before I can respond. Personally, I am a very successful buyer's agent because I get to the heart of your wants and needs and help you find your focus. Plus, I've lived in Jersey all of my life.
Feel free to reach out to me if you like my assistance. Also, congrats on the wedding. First comes love, marriage, a house. . . seems very logical. :-)