There are some great schools in Severna Park in Anne Arundel County in addition to the aforementioned Howard and Montgomery County areas. And Anne Arundel County property taxes tend to be lower. A lot of people also like Anne Arundel County as it is close to the water and right in between Baltimore and Annapolis; very accessible. Also depends on what kind of price range you're looking in. A good resource to check out information about schools is http://www.greatschools.org.
As for whether the schools are LGBT-friendly, I am not sure. My suggestion would be to call a few and ask to see if they've had any issues. It's probably difficult to avoid intolerance all together, especially because kids can be mean, however I can't see the professionals at the schools discriminating. Feel free to give me a call if you'd like to discuss more. What's bringing you to MD from the windy city? I'm here to help so don't hesitate to contact me any time. :)
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