You will have less money out-of-pocket with a VA loan. However, a conventional loan will have a lower payment ---because you put more money down. If you can afford a larger down payment, then you're better off with a conventional loan. If you make a down payment of 20% or more, you can avoid PMI (mortgage insurance).
Every situation is different;
One may be more expensive today, but better in the long run.
If you have a good down payment; maybe you'd be better off with a Conventional loan.
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