I lived in the tri-state area for much of my life- still have brothers and relatives there! NJ is a great state, but I understand it's gotten incredibly expensive. Plus the weather. But it's vastly different from here in Reno.
First off, I just want to mention that we are at 5000 feet above sea level- so if you have any heart issues or breathing difficulties, well, you might want to consider someplace around Las Vegas for your move west. I've had several clients who were forced to leave this area because of their medical conditions, and I certainly wouldn't want you to move across the nation and then find out you made the wrong choice!
If that is not an issue for you, then you have some great options here. First, we have several retirement communities which have single level homes where the yards are small, and yard care is included in the monthly association fees. In particular, there is a beautiful gated community in Sparks called Toscana which has gorgeous homes and a great clubhouse with lots of activities and a strong sense of community. Sparks also gets less winter weather than some of our other retirement communities, such as Del Webb in Somerset. Toscana is also level, which means it's easier to navigate, and there's a super nice shopping center just outside the gates.
There is also a nice community in SW Reno, again, close to shopping, etc.
If a condo suits you better, there are many options- so if you could further describe what you are seeking, I could give you some better choices.
We do get 4 seasons here- although the last years have been drought years, we can get a lot of snow here in the winter on occasion. But in general our weather is pretty mild in the winters- and lots of sunshine. It's not unusual for it to snow a few inches at night and melt during the day- the temperature swings between day and night are huge- last night it was 27 degrees and we're projected to reach 70 today! Fall and spring are delightful. Summers are hot, but nothing compared to NJ because we have hardly any humidity. It makes a huge difference!
My brother was stunned to discover how beautiful this area is, and how many lakes and streams we have. Yes, we actually DO have water! And trees! It's just nothing like an eastern forest, but we also don't have more than occasional summer rain.
Reno has festival after festival, a great arts community and a lot to offer. I've been here for well over a decade, and I am glad I made the move!
As far as helping you move without seeing the new property, that's a snap- I've done this time after time. I can take a zillion photos, videos, whatever you need to make you feel comfortable with your decision. No problem with paperwork, etc. I make it easy! Just drop me a line if you would like my help firstname.lastname@example.org