Patient, nice, not pushy REALTOR(r).
That sounds exactly like every real estate agents profile I've read on Trulia!
You've apparently come to the right place.
Andy, the concerns you have expressed are those of which every professional is aware. Very seriously do we embrace the opportunity to help others in the purchase and sale of their biggest investment. Every agent I have ever met fully understands their entire business depends on delivering outstanding service to each and every home buyer and seller.
So, why then, are so many buyers and sellers expressing the same concern you are? A concern that there exits a dirth of patient, nice, not pushy and I'll add effective, knowledgeable, transparent, committted professionals?
Let me propose the issue and the solution.
Firstly, buyers and sellers are distressed, just as you have indirectly expressed, at the prospect of having to select a smiling face from the wave of smiling faces emerging from the Sea of Real Estate Agents, all murmuring, murmuring..."choose me!"
In the end, desperation sets in and one must choose the best dancer in the entourage. You used the 20 question agent interview guide, you followed crazy advise regarding checking credit history and counting the letters appended to their name and you make a choice, pinned the tail on the donkey, knowing you've been played. Such outcomes have the same Genesis. It is adversarial, even though everyone is smiling, there will, however, be clear winners and losers.
What if you were given the 'blue print' that would allow you to know who is going in your direction, and who may have a different destination in mind? The ability to identify who stands by your side to strengthen you. Who guards your back to keep your protected, who will walk ahead to identify and remove the hazards.
Your decison will not be based on the dance or the song they sing but soley on that which they do!
You need the answer to seven questions, that you must never ask.
You need to hear three nouns that describe you, from the one you will choose.
You need to hear three verbs that express you, from the one you will choose.
This one, is the one who will be a sojourn with you in the vessel of kindness, under the council of wisdom and the sweetness of enduring patience.
Here's the rub. In order for such a person to reveal themselves to you, you must also be transparent in your goals, motivations and fears. If you open the window, your sojourner, 'the sojourner," will pivot emotionally and spiritually towards you. The ensuing intelligent and probing questions may make you feel discomfort, becuase they are so incredibly unexpected. (Do not mistaken these question for being pushy. If you do, the problem is not with the sojourner) These questions will be about you. They must be about you. In the end, this agent will describe you with three nouns and three verbs and will confirm to you the seven questions you reallly needed answered and the absolute answer to those questions.
Speechlessly you will respond, "Yes, those are my questions and yes you have answered them all."
This is a two way street. Be prepared to be absolutely amazed regarding the transformation so many professionals have experienced as they too sorted out, what is, and is not important. We have walked the way of suffering the past five years just like so many others and are grateful to be in a position to offer the extended hand of help to those who truly seek it.
We offer help. If you need help you've come to the right people. If you are counter-intentioned, the help you receive will never be satisfactory. It has been my expereince that the journey thourgh a real estate transactions have emotonal stages just like every relationship. If the stages are not anticipated, prepared for, and adapted to, like so many other relationships....they fail.
Best of success to you,
Annette Lawrence, Broker/Associate
Remax Realtec Group
Palm Harbor, FL