Good morning, Trish,
According to the l 2011 NAR cost vs. value report, which has data for this region broken out (regional data is not easy to find: Remodeling magazine may be an easier to use source here), kitchen updates will give you a return of around 80 cents on the dollar around here. This confirms what a lot of others have already said; so much is a matter of individual taste. I have seen buyers gut and renovate already updated kitchens and baths to their taste.
Here is my "take" on updating for resale. First, do any needed front exterior updates. The cost vs. value report, my experience, and common sense all agree: if you can't get buyers in the door, you can't sell your home. Second, replace any really cheap-looking (example: fiberglass tub/showers) or terminally dated (exposed light bulb bath fixtures are so 1983) stuff. Brass fixtures are regarded as cheap glitz: brushed nickel, alabaster, opaque glass, wrought iron, weathered bronze, etc., are "in". Third, think "light and bright": repaint any dark walls with a rich, heavy cream color ( neutral and bright: you may want to think about a whole-house paint job). You may also want to think about re-painting trim work. Fourth, do staging. Think "de-clutter, de-personalize, you're creating an interior that's a stage set to sell your home".