One size does not fit all & on a general,open forum, you would get a general answer.
I am currently working with a First time buyer couple , both, concerned with the same aspects of home buying, as you ; resale, school, commute, community & amenities
They actually read a series of my posts here,on Trulia, before deciding to work with me.
Both are commuters, 1 travels to NYC everyday.
If you'd like me to put you in touch with them, Please contact me directly .
Shalu Thaman - Realtor,ePRO,ABR,SRES
Keller Williams Princeton Real Estate
Cell # 609.577.5861
Fax # 609.613.5907