Gay couple moving to Nashville area

Asked by nitch1953, Nashville, TN Mon Dec 17, 2012

My partner and I are relocating from No. California to Nashville area early next year and will buy a home. We are a female gay couple in our 50's and would like to know if there are any small towns that are accepting of our lifestyle. Nashville seems more liberal (urban areas usually are) but we would prefer a smaller town atmosphere...if there is one that exists in Middle TN. Any ideas? Thanks!

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Nancy Robins…, Agent, Royal Oak, MI
Tue Jan 8, 2013
These ladies are letting us all know they are apprehensive about moving from CA to TN. Thats a sad commentary on the lack of confidence these Americans feel in finding a peaceful home while being an intact family. As long as Americans have to worry about their own safety and acceptance in a community of their choice, this tells us we have a ways to go on expanding and extending civil rights to all. I am proud of how all of you have answered these ladies question. This should go a long way to help them feel better about moving to TN.
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Andra Brewer, Agent, Nashville, TN
Wed Jan 23, 2013
I love the variety of answers and ideas on this question from all our local Realtors! There are many options in Middle TN for everyone!
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Lucystoffel, Home Buyer, Nashville, TN
Wed Jan 23, 2013
Watertown is a bout 30-45 min from Nashville. It is a old railroad town with antique shops etc. It is very accepting of gays. there are lots of artists and musicians here. A small eclectic town and even sports a hippie commune outside of town.
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Chuck Campbe…, Agent, Gallatin, TN
Wed Jan 23, 2013
Like Kim, I am also from California and have found the Middle Tennessee area to be a great place to live. I was welcomed with open arms and a lot of people waving (something you get use to over time). Although I miss SoCal I cannot tell you how much I have enjoyed meeting Tennesseans each and every day.

As you can see from this thread there is a lot of great advice and websites which you can go to which will help you in determining the perfect area for you. Let me know if I can be of assistance.

Chuck Campbell
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Kim Brown, , 37067
Sun Jan 20, 2013
Hello There,

I am also a native Californian. I was born not too far from you in Merced, CA and spent most of my life, (well over 40 years) in the Los Angeles Area.

We moved to Tennessee in 2005 from Redondo Beach. We bought a wonderful loft in the heart of downtown Nashville and a beautiful home in Franklin, Tennessee. There are many gay couples here and I can tell you, you will be made welcome. There are also many Californians here and they too will reach out to you and get you acclimated to Tennessee life.

Please contact me should you decide to relocate. My son is the self proclaimed "Mayor of Nashville" and he can show you all of the "hot spots" and private clubs you will for sure enjoy.

Take care and hope to speak to you soon.

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flobeedoodle, Home Owner, Nashville, TN
Wed Dec 26, 2012
When my partner and I were moving to Nashville, everyone recommended East Nashville and 12 South, but we found the houses in those neighborhoods to be far too expensive for the size. We got a beautiful home on the southeast side of town, and the neighborhood is very nice. We often see other same-sex couples at the local grocery, hardware, and department stores, and and there are plenty of HRC/Rainbow/etc stickers on cars parked in our neighborhood when we walk the dog.

I would recommend against living outside of Davidson County, if you can. The "big city" of Nashville is not like the east coast glop or the west coast sprawl; I would imagine you can find a number of neighborhoods in Nashville that will suit you.
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Cheribogasky, Home Buyer, New York, NY
Mon Aug 10, 2015
We are also considering tn and are 50 and gay did you find sucess finding a nice neighborhood
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Mack McCoy, Agent, Seattle, WA
Tue Jan 8, 2013
Yes, Nancy. Thank you. Well said.
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Lucystoffel, Home Buyer, Nashville, TN
Tue Jan 1, 2013
my condo is in the Hermitage area next to Donelson and close to the airport and hwy 40. close to Percy Priest Lake. Lucy Stoffel
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Ron Thomas, Agent, Fresno, CA
Tue Jan 1, 2013
Why do you feel the need to bring this issue up?
No one else would; particularly not a Realtor!
Commenting on this, positively or negatively would constitute "steering" which is very serious.

You are 100% on your own.
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Put yourself in the shoes of a lesbian couple moving from CA to TN. After you have a good picture or feeling of what that might be like, read their question again. Then read yours and the other answers posted by Nashville Realtors. That should answer your own question.
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Lucystoffel, Home Buyer, Nashville, TN
Tue Jan 1, 2013
I have a condo for sale...3 br 21/2 baths that I bought brand new in 06. I have since married and want to sell. Theere is a gay couple living in the condo next to me and several in the neighborhood. This area is friendly and not prejudiced. Contact :
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Andra Brewer, Agent, Nashville, TN
Sun Dec 30, 2012
Nowadays there are many options for a types of people in Nashville. I would be glad to answer any questions you have about various areas. I recently found a home for some buyers who thought they wanted East Nashville, but discovered they LOVE the Donelson Area. There are so many different parts of town to explore.

Good luck on your move!
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H, Home Seller, Nashville, TN
Wed Dec 26, 2012
East Nashville/Inglewood. Close to downtown, walking distance to bars/ restaurants, very liberal and great prices for updated charmers.
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Andrew Fox, Agent, Clarksville, TN
Tue Dec 18, 2012
Hello Maam,
Welcome to middle TN. As an agent I am sure you have realized I have to be careful with my answers. I will tell you that I have helped many similar couples find their dream homes here in Clarksville, TN. We are about 45min-1 hour north of nashville. Since the military has changed the dont ask dont tell policy we have had a booming number of couples with different lifestyles calling clarksville home.
If I can help in any way, or if you would like to contact some of my past clients about the area please call me anytime. Check out my recommendations.
Andrew Fox
Coldwell Banker Conroy, Marable, Holleman
111 s riverside dr.
clarksville, tn 37040
cell 931-302-2241
office 931-552-1700
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Mon Dec 17, 2012
Real estate agents are not allowed to comment on a variety of topics. The Fair Housing Act restricts the information that can be provided by a real estate agent.

Off Limit Topics Include:
• Crime Statistic (including questions about whether a neighborhood is good or bad or safe)
• Demographics
• Environmental Concerns
• Household Income
• Religion
• Schools (including questions about how good or bad the school is)

Determining to the answers to questions on any of the topics listed above is something that you would need to do on your own. It is up to the individual to make their own determination about a specific area. If a real estate agent were to comment on such a thing, it could be steering which is a prohibited act.

Some websites to try include:

Reasons Why A Real Estate Agent Cannot Comment……

As Marilyn suggested, check out the local GLBT publications.
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Zanni, Home Buyer, Nashville, TN
Mon Dec 17, 2012
East Nashville/12 South is probably the most liberal area, and has thrived as a multi cultural community in the past 5 years here. I think it is the perfect place for a gay couple or anyone who wants to be in a non discriminatory environment. It is also a very artistic place.
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Marilyn Bell, Agent, Calabasas, CA
Mon Dec 17, 2012
I absolutely agree with Monica.

Here is a link to the GLBT newspaper in the area:

That may be a good starting point. I think you'll find the cost of living here exponentially lower than Northern California. Good luck with your search. I'll be happy to help you in any other way I can.

Best regards,
Marilyn Bell
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Monica Neuba…, Agent, Franklin, TN
Mon Dec 17, 2012
Welcome to the Middle TN area! I have to say that asking Realtors that question will not be much help for you. The Fair Housing Laws and Code of Ethics (which specifically mentions Sexual Orientation) prevent agents from discussing areas and the "types" of people who live in certain places. We are to focus on property only, not the people who live in them. And furthermore, agents don't really know for sure the makeup of every area anyway - that doesn't fall into our general area of knowledge - specifically.

I understand that you want to get this information, and I would encourage you to ask your question on other forums, where there aren't as many Realtors who are answering the questions. Then, when you hire an agent, you can tell them the areas you are interested in.

I wish you the best. If I can be of further assistance, feel free to contact me through my profile info.

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I appreciate the code of ethics and your appropriate reply. I'll seek out information on other forums as you've suggested. BTW, we'll be looking for a realtor soon to help in the home search. We are interested in Franklin and surrounding area. Thanks again!
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