Do you just "know" when it's the right home for you?

Asked by Kate, Florida Mon Aug 18, 2008

This is a pretty generic question, but I'm curious as to everyone's opinion: I posted another question about a house I made an offer on, that was rejected and then wound up under contract with someone else. I love that house and can't help but hope that the contract will fall apart. But since it most likely won't, I'm wondering if everyone believes in the "that house was meant to be...that house wasn't meant to be" mantras? In your experience, will I probably end up settling for something I don't like as much, or have I yet to find "the one"? Thanks in advance for humoring me!

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Daniel, Both Buyer And Seller, Saint Louis, MO
Mon Aug 18, 2008
Kate, we just went through the ordeal of finding a house after relocating to a new city. It took us about 4 months to finally end up in a house. Hearing about the market, I didn't think it would take nearly this long. Prices are definitely down a bit, but so is the inventory level as I think people are afraid to sell here. I am not sure if I believe in the mantra of if it was meant to be or not, but going through the process, it made it easier to think that way. For our story, we missed a house that we liked in our target neighborhood by 2 hrs. Seller had countered another offer just before we were putting ours in and buyers accepted. After another month of looking, we had and offer accepted on a house, but at inspection found the deck was falling off the house and sellers didn't want to fix. We walked away which was tough (house is still on the market). About a month later, we found another house that had been on the market for over a year. With our luck, another offer came in the same day as ours and we got out bid. The next day, we found another house we really liked. Put the offer in, it was accepted, and we moved in last week. At the end of the day, we sacrificed location a bit. We are about 5 additional miles outside of the area we initially wanted. But, plus side: we got this house for about $45k less than the others. It is nearly 1000sqft larger than the others and is 20 years newer. So far we love it...

There were definitely times we thought about sacrificing certain things and as I said, location was a bit of the choice. But, we seriously thought about offering on homes closer to busy streets or much smaller (and cheaper). At the end of the day, we were able to hold out for a while and find a house we are really happy with. As of right now, I feel like not getting the 3 previous houses was the best thing. Although it was tough to go through the process. Good luck!!!
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Bill Eckler, Agent, Venice, FL
Mon Aug 18, 2008

Yes, we remind our customers in situations like these to focus on the fact that one door closes another one opens. People are often able to relate this quote to their own personal lifes experiences. I sure you can also.

As difficult as it is to accept this disappointment , there will come a time when you will understand and truly accept why this one has not worked out for you.

Good luck,
The "Eckler Team"
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Kate, Home Buyer, Florida
Mon Aug 18, 2008
Thank you to both answers! Elv!s, thank you for keeping me optimistic...

Lynn911, this house was built in 1986, which is old for our area (Florida). It's also a unique floorplan for this area, with the second and third bedrooms upstairs (most homes in this area are ranch-style). I don't know how to find out the original builder. But actually, there IS another house for sale with the exact same floorplan. And it's a foreclosure, listed $45,000 less than the first one, and is actually in decent shape inside. However, it's also on a busy street (we have 2 small kids), with a smaller yard, and no back porch or patio. We can't decide if the house is worth it, being the floorplan that we love, even with the bad location (although it's still in the same school zone). Since everyone always says, "Location, location, location" it seems like an unwise investment...
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Alan May, Agent, Evanston, IL
Mon Aug 18, 2008
I don't believe that there's only "one" house for you, anymore than I believe that there's only "one" true love.

I think there are many who could be a true love, and many homes that could be "the one". I do believe that certain homes "speak to you"... and when you find one that speaks to you, pay attention.

Another home will come along that will tug at your heartstrings, and you'll find that it may suit you even better that the one where you offer was rejected. Things have a way of working themselves out. Keep the faith.
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Dallas Texas, Agent, Dallas, TN
Mon Aug 18, 2008
Many builders in the same area have very similiar floor plans have you searched who the builder is determine where else similiar home has been built. ?
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