The Woodlands is approximately 40 miles north of Houston, a great master planned community and very self contained, with shopping and schools and pretty much all you need there. The Woodlands is a great place for raising children...great schools, parks, etc.
Houston is a very diverse city. Like most big cities, the gay community in general is closer in...even if it just means more in the neighborhoods around you. Also if you want to find more resources for information and help from professionals in the gay community, I can help with that too.
713-863-9494. In any case...have a great move.