Are you aware of the HAMP loan modification program?
If you were denied a HAMP loan modificaton then you'll likely qualify for HAFA (HAMP denial is a prerequisite in order to get accepted into this program). Ocwen is on the list of participants.
1) You must first attempt to short sale the property for a minimum of 120 days before a deed in lieu
2) You will be granted up to $6,000 in relocation money regardless of whether you short sale the property or give the deed in lieu
3) The lender would have to waive any and all deficiencies.
Your best bet right now is to find a counseling agency on the makinghomeaffordable.gov website and have them work this file and get ocwen to play fair.
Good Luck. Please feel free to share any updates. I hope it works out for you.