You clearly don't know what you are doing.
You are apparently not achieving your goals.
Now you are looking for someone to blame other than taking responsibly to learn how to play with the big boys.
But it is kinda fun to conjure up all this conspiracy stuff..right? You will find the audience more receptive with the zealots on zillow.
In the end, when dealing with folks like yourself, what Sally said is worth repeating,
"we're damned if we do, damned if we don't!"
There's no way to keep the unprepared happy.
Do you say the same things about Used Car salemen when you are drinking with buddies?
I take great offense at your wording.
Do you take advantage of people in your profession, or is it all in the name of business for you?
2) If your real estate agent and the listing agent are both Realtors, then they should know what the Code of Ethics states about offers and the submission of offers which are covered in the Standards of Practice.1-6 an 1-7.
When I represent my clients, I don't shirk my fiduciary duties -- one of those affirmative duties is that of "obedience." If you didn't instruct your agent to submit an offer, it's on you.
Doesn't sound like the used car business to me at all -- and unless you can justify the blanket remark and actually correlate references to substantiate that, it's meaningless. It does, however, sound like everyone involved in this are clueless on how to practice real estate.
In this case it's the Seller sho should be filing a complaint after firing their agent.
If presented with the same situation, ask to summit a back up offer. If the agent says he/she is not taking back up offers, speak to the agent's Broker and have them contact the seller.
Never hurts to put in a back up offer.
I've had buyer's end up buying a house as a "back up" buyer!
As far as unethical, surely not being told the truth is unethical, and very sorry you had to endure this kind of behavior. Unfortunately, there are unethical people in every business, but as you said, when it's an emotional charged, high dollar item, it makes it that much worse to have to deal with this behavior.
There are MANY good, professional agents out there...find a good one, stick with him/her and they'll help you thru the process!
and,...you have backed out of that other house if you really wanted the 1st home.
Ohh, Your "realtor" didnt tell you that either?
Most agents are honest and want to do the right thing for their clients. But on the flip side...someone could argue that if the listing agent had told your agent to go ahead and bring an offer, then he'd be trying to create a "bidding war" situation. So...we're damned if we do, damned if we don't!