For your dollar, Alameda, Albany, Berkeley and Lamorinda (Lafayette/Orinda/Moraga) have the best public schools, all the way from K-12, within a reasonable commute from your husband9;s office. I also have clients who live and send their kids to certain El Cerrito schools, and are very happy with them. A couple of Oakland neighborhoods have decent K-6 schools, but they are pricier neighborhoods, and most homeowners prefer to go private by the time their kids get to high school. Similarly, Kensington has fabulous schools, but is higher priced, generally speaking.
If you're willing to shell out for private schools, though, the East Bay is your oyster. I live in Oakland and have sent my kids to several private and charter schools, and feel that there are some fabulous options here for private education.