Infographics

Where to Live and Let Love Find You

By Mark Uh | February 1, 2017
It’s Valentine’s Day. Don’t sulk alone in your apartment watching Netflix. If you’re single and ready to mingle, maybe you should move to a new city where love will find you.

Unlucky in love? It’s not you, it’s your city. The dating pool in the nation’s largest cities varies quite a bit. To help people find the places that will give them the best chance to find their soul mates, Trulia examined U.S. Census data in each of the 100 largest metros. We’ve focused our efforts not only on where you can find plenty of single men and women, but where you’re more likely to find those more or less educated, divorced or not, and places where populations skew young or old..

For now, we limited our study to those seeking the opposite sex, since government data isn’t quite as good when it comes to same-sex statistics.

Taking a guess at what people care about most, we looked specifically at the ratio of single men to single women, the age range of these singles, how many hours they typically work each week, how much education they have and whether they were previously married or not. Note that we only analyze those at or over the age of 21.

For example, if you’re looking for a marriage-material guy– a man in his 30s with at least a college degree who works the standard 40 hours a week or more and has never been married, head directly to San Francisco, San Jose, Seattle or Austin, Texas. San Francisco has the second highest ratio of single male to single female (0.972), where 52% of adult men are single. Of this dating pool, 19.8% are in their 30s and 55.7% work at least 40 hours a week.

Best Places to Find Marriage Material Guys
Rank U.S. Metro
1 San Francisco, CA
2 San Jose, CA
3 Seattle, WA
4 Austin, TX
5 San Diego, CA
6 Orange County, CA
7 Honolulu, HI
8 Madison, WI
9 Denver, CO
10 Los Angeles, CA

On the flip side, if you’re looking for Ms. Independent – a woman in her forties with at least a graduate degree, works at least 40 hours a week and you don’t care if she’s been married before, go east. You’ll have the best luck along the Eastern Seaboard metros of Washington, Atlanta, Raleigh, N.C., and Baltimore. For instance, in the D.C. suburb of Silver Springs, Md., 44.4% of adult women are single – of which, 14.6% are in their fab forty years and 38.8% work at least 40 hours a week.

Best Places to Find Ms. Independent
Rank U.S. Metro
1 Silver Spring-Frederick-Rockville, MD
2 Atlanta, GA
3 Raleigh, NC
4 Washington, DC
5 Baltimore, MD
6 Fairfield County, CT
7 Fort Lauderdale, FL
8 Columbia, SC
9 New York, NY
10 Richmond, VA

If neither of these profiles are your cup of tea, then take the quiz yourself to figure out where you should live to if you’re looking to find love.

To dive a little deeper into the traits of singles, we first looked at where the odds are in your favor when it comes to the guy-to-gal ratio. In our study, singles includes anyone who has never been married or was formerly married and age 21 or higher. A larger or smaller guy-to-gal ratio may tell you whether you’re more likely to be surrounded by men or women if you are sitting in a typical bar or restaurant.

  • Looking for men? Cities with the more single men to single women tended to be on the West Coast rather than the East Coast. Specifically, the San Francisco Bay Area – which includes both the San Francisco and San Jose metro areas have some of the highest single men to single women ratios. But it will cost you – these are two of the priciest markets in the nation and the center of Silicon Valley. If those markets are too rich for your blood, consider Bakersfield, Calif., which took the lead in the ranking of where men outnumber women, as well as Salt Lake City and Las Vegas.
  • Where are all the single ladies? Look to Sarasota, Fla.; Birmingham, Ala.; and Winston-Salem, N.C., which had the highest ratios of single women to single men. But if you’re looking for a big city option, Philadelphia and New York had the 8th and 9th highest single women to single men ratios.

 

Where Single Men Outnumber Single Women
Ranking U.S. Metro Ratio of Single Men to Single Women
1 Bakersfield, CA 1.021
2 Salt Lake City, UT 0.984
3 San Francisco, CA 0.972
4 Las Vegas, NV 0.960
5 San Jose, CA 0.954
6 Honolulu, HI 0.947
7 San Diego, CA 0.939
8 Seattle, WA 0.937
9 Colorado Springs, CO 0.924
10 Austin, TX 0.923
U.S. National Average 0.850
NOTE: A ratio of 1 means that there is an equal number of single men to single women. A ratio higher than 1 means there are more single men than single women, whereas a ratio lower than 1 means the opposite.

 

Where Single Women Outnumber Single Men
Ranking US Metro Ratio of Single Men to Single Women
1 North Port-Sarasota-Bradenton, FL 0.741
2 Birmingham, AL 0.743
3 Winston-Salem, NC 0.744
4 Silver Spring-Frederick-Rockville, MD 0.748
5 Greensboro, NC 0.763
6 El Paso, TX 0.765
7 Dayton, OH 0.767
8 Philadelphia, PA 0.769
9 New York, NY-NJ 0.771
10 Baltimore, MD 0.774
  U.S. National Average 0.850
NOTE: A ratio of 1 means that there is an equal number of single men to single women. A ratio higher than 1 means there are more single men than single women, whereas a ratio lower than 1 means the opposite.

Next, we looked at the age range – 20s, 30s, and 40s – of these singles for each metro, broken down by gender.

  • If you’re looking for a mate just hitting the Dirty Thirty era, you should head to San Francisco, Austin, Texas, Salt Lake City, Las Vegas or Los Angeles.
  • On the other hand, Upstate New York metros such as Rochester, Buffalo, Albany, and Syracuse have a very low percentage of single adults in their thirties. Same goes for metros in neighboring states, Akron, Ohio and Montgomery County, Pa.
  • Looking for a date that Taylor Swift would describe as “happy, free, confused, and lonely at the same time?” Madison, Wis.; Virginia Beach, Va.; San Diego; Colorado Springs, Colo.; and El Paso, Texas have some of the highest share of single adults who are in their twenties.
  • Meanwhile, six Florida metros Sarasota, Daytona Beach, Cape Coral, Tampa, West Palm Beach, and Fort Lauderdale have some of the smallest share of singles in their twenties.
  • Want someone who’s firmly adulting? Move to places such as Winston-Salem, Indianapolis, Detroit, Atlanta, Greensboro, N.C.; Las Vegas, or Miami where you’ll find more singles in their 40s.

 

Are you looking for someone who is working hard for the money or hardly working? To help both workaholics and those who barely work a real job find love, we examined what percentage of employed single men and women worked less and more than the standard 40 hours per week.

  • The Florida metros of Daytona Beach, Cape Coral, and Sarasota had some of the highest shares of single adults working less than 40 hours per week. Chances are, you might meet your match while chilling out on the beach in these cities. Many of these singles may be retirees.
  • Washington, Silver Spring, Md., Dallas, Austin, and Houston had the highest share of single adults who worked more than 40 hours per week, making it the best place to date if you’re looking for a hardworking mate.

 

When it comes to education, are you looking for someone who’s book smart or street smart?

  • If you are sapiosexual—someone who’s attracted to intelligent people—the data shows that you should move to San Francisco, Silver Spring, Md., Washington D.C., Cambridge, Mass., or San Jose. These metros have some of the highest percentage of single men and women with at least a college degree or graduate degree.
  • If lack of a diploma isn’t a deal breaker, then inland California might be the place to go. Riverside, Fresno, and Bakersfield has some of the lowest percentages of single adults with a college degree.

Finally, we examined what percentage of the single population has never been married before. Some people don’t care, but some don’t want to deal with the baggage.

  • Large urban markets with relatively young populations such as San Francisco, Los Angeles, New York, Philadelphia, and San Jose have some of the highest percentage of single adults who have never been married.
  • Divorcee seeking the same? Florida metros including Sarasota, Daytona Beach, Cape Coral as well as smaller towns such as Tulsa, Okla.; Knoxville, Tenn.; and Birmingham, Ala. had fewer singles that had never been married.

 

With data on your side, we hope we can help you improve your odds in love. May you celebrate Valentine’s Day next year, and not Singles Awareness Day, S.A.D.

Methodology

2014 5-year US Census American Community Survey data gathered via IPUMS-USA at the University of Minnesota were used for this study. For the quiz, we restricted the data to non-married adults with at least a high school degree and aged 21 or older, but younger than 50. There were two underlying factors that determined which metro is the most suitable for the quiz taker. The first factor was the single adult male to single adult female ratio. The second factor was what percentage of the single adult male or female population fit your demographic criteria specified by one’s quiz answers. Rankings of the 100 metro areas based on these two respective factors were used in order to generate a final ranking that is tailored to the quiz takers’ preferences. For the explanation portion of this report that comes after the quiz, the data includes all those who are 21 years of age or over and are currently non-married unless specified otherwise.