Dear Ac81,
Maybe the house was not meant to be, but if you find it becomes a benchmark against which you measure every other house and none of them quite match up, then this would be my suggestion for how to handle that situation.
If the house is not her personal listing, you can call her broker or office manager and explain that you are still interested in the house, but would prefer to work with a different agent. It isn't necessary or in anyone's best interests to go into details, as the objective is to buy the house, not reprimand the agent. So when they ask why, I would simply say that you feel there's a personality conflict. You want a smooth and easy transaction and don't want personalities to get in the way of a successful purchase. Their objective is to sell the house, so they are not going to make difficulties for you, but if pressed, you don't have to answer, you can leave it at that.
If the house is her personal listing, then I would go to a completely different agency and ask them to represent you as a buyer's agent. The transaction can still be done without any more direct contact with her, only your agent will need to be in touch and you can ask your agent to pick up her fee for her at the closing, so she doesn't even need to be there either.
Regarding the texting, it's common courtesy to ask people how they would like to be contacted, and the fact that she did not do that tells me she's not very experienced. Also to give her the benefit of the doubt, she may have mentioned her gym simply to let you both know there's a good one in the area, but I am struggling to excuse her for the flirting because there is no excuse for that. She's supposed to be selling a house, not herself! So I don't blame you at all for walking away - but it's not the only solution, and I'm mindful that the poor seller lost a very good buyer through no fault of their own, so maybe you'd like to give them a second chance and get the house you really like best.
Good Luck with your house hunt whatever you decide!
Joanna Lane
http://www.propertyangels.com - Tue Aug 25 2009, 10:01