Chouchou, Home Buyer in New Jersey

Would kids from typical working family find peer-pressured in this ML wealthy neighbourhood?

Asked by Chouchou, New Jersey Mon Apr 13, 2009

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You have to know that ML is a bubble outside the real world. It is safe and lovely but, boy, the peer-pressure is tremendous. There are lots of wanna-bes and those really know how to put the pressure on. On the other hand, there is also academic peer pressure - so no worries about homework. To go to the high school in ML, your kid has to be confident and smart. If they are neither, look elsewhere. Do you shop in Abercrombie and are your kids super sporty? Then you are OK.
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Hi there, while I can't comment specifically on Mountain Lakes, I can comment on the peer pressure that kids experience - let me start by saying that it is hard to escape the affluence of the NE experience, particularly in NYC commuting towns. I've raised two children here, worried about this same issue, and watched them struggle now and then,but the wonderful thing is young adults they are very centered and down to earth, almost defiantly so (like their Mama ;-) I like to think!). They can hold their own in any crowd, socially and academically but remain true to themselves - and we are middle class hard working people. My advice is this - your children will look to you - stay grounded yourself and they will too.

If you feel comfortable in a community - your children probably will as well. Take your time, immerse yourself in the community - do some grocery shopping there, walk the streets a little, visit a park or two, talk to people - allow yourself to get the feel of it. Here is one suggestion, I apply the "do they wave back" test when I visit a community with buyers. I wave, and I watch and take note - if people acknowledge me, smile and wave back, I take it as a very good sign. If they don't, that makes a real impression as well.

When all is said and done, the best advice is this - trust your instincts - no one knows you or what is "home" to you better than you do.

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0 votes Thank Flag Link Sun Oct 17, 2010
Having grown up in Mt Lakes and now raising 3 kids here, I can tell you that the educational system is first class. In New York, where I attended elementary school, I had to hide my straight A report card for fear of ridicule. In Mt Lakes, getting straight A's is considered quite "cool". Attend a back to school night and it's tough to get a seat in the classroom. 20 desks, 40 parents. The parents take a very active role in the education of the children, sports programs are very big. Plus the school accepts tuition students (who have to apply) Talk about raising the bar!
If that's peer pressure, then give my kids some more of it!
0 votes Thank Flag Link Fri Sep 17, 2010
Living in ML is not a "bubble" it is the real world for those who have ambition, dedication to achievement and value education. These are the things that will make you successful in the "real" world. Parents instill in children what is important and having frank conversations around the dinner table reinforce these precepts.

Living in either an affluent or poor area presents its own unique social peer pressures. The difference is parental involvement and understanding who you are not what some else thinks you should become. Those who believe in status, cache, with no belief in substance will gravitate toward each other. Those with gravitas will become your allies.
0 votes Thank Flag Link Wed Nov 11, 2009
Kids will find peer pressure in every neighborhood. If you find a home you love in beautiful mountain lakes that is affordable and comfortable for your family, by all means buy it. It's a great area! Much success!
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