Your last post, I'm sure, makes everyone feel better about your situation. IMHO, your agent is doing the best thing possible by focusing on the deal. Do not let your ill feelings about being snooped on, or behind your back dealings get in the way of the deal.
The buyer agent is in an adversarial position with you, and anyone worth his salt is going to try and find weaknesses in the adversary. Also, if the buyer agent's client's interest is contingent upon the availability of the other property, why shouldn't he talk to the owner? I know you have a lease with option to buy, but it is still just an option.
I'm not an agent so I am looking at this impartially. Many on this board know that I have not been bashful about going after a few agents in my posts. However, in my opinion your are just wasting time that could be better spent on more constructive things.
"The potential buyers agent has never produced an agency disclosure to us or our agent either. Doesn't that have to be presented to us in writing? If so at what time in the transaction should it be presented?"
Your agent should know the rules for your area. If it is something that is standard, hopefully an agent will respond. As I stated before, I ain't no agent, and I no nuthin about RE rules.
The local board of realtors will not give advice, I have already contacted them. I will be contacting the agents broker as soon as I am sure the deal is finished. The potential buyers agent has never produced an agency disclosure to us or our agent either. Doesn't that have to be presented to us in writing? If so at what time in the transaction should it be presented?
If you are not represented by a Realtor/Brokerage company with a listing agreement for your property for sale i.e. you are selling by Owner, then the best way to figure out what has been going on is to contact your local board of Realtors as they will be able to direct you to the right person who can give you some advice....
And there is always your option to contact the managing broker of the office the buyers agent works out of
to voice your concerns.... but may be the way you already feel that things were done in an unethical way, you may be better of talking to the local board of Realtors to sort though the situation before taking any further steps.
Are you represented by an agent? Your agent can help you with your answers. If you are not represented by an agent, maybe you could contact the Broker of the Buyers agent and voice your concerns.
I do hope you get some answers to your dilemma.