Interesting financial analysis. Perhaps it is time to step back and consider the type of home you want to live in. This is a very personal decision. Your Realtor, and those responding in this forum, will not be living in the home. Or, if someone lives in one of these two communities, they are not you. It is your decision based on whatever criteria is important to you.
It appears you are a numbers person...for today's dollars, go with the lower cost one. But that doesn't answer the cost to maintain the home in the short term and the long term. It also doesn't address the long term appreciation.
Personally, I would select the home that you and your family like the most...but I am not you! Good luck in your decision.