Feeling overwhelmed = Underplanning. Any realtor will be happy to answer questions or simply tour the obvious areas when you visit to insure your level of comfort.
What factors are most important to feel safe?
security gated screen door
large lot size
well lit streets
cul de sac
what is most important and what area are you moving to?
Happy to help with 18 years experience and 3 kids, I can see the concerns, Michael J 206-200-1234 in Seattle Real Estate.
Crime can happen anywhere. For an agent to say one area is safe is to risk being responsible if a client becomes an unfortunate victim. For an broker to say an area is not safe runs a risk of redlining or harming a community.
The only safe answer we can provide is to direct you to sources for crime statistics and allow you to determine how you feel about an area based on them. I've included one source below, you may also want to check with the local police before you commit to an area. I've done this myself when we were moving around a lot.