We're trying to go from Brockton to Sharon or Foxboro for the same reasons. The Federation for Children with Special Needs is a non profit in Boston. You can call for general info, ask questions. They do free workshops too that you can get educated in spec ed and how it works.
i agree with that. An educational advocate is what you need. For bettter towns Newton if you can afford it or other towns with more money though you will still need to advocate and possibly fight for your chld, at least a budget that's tighter isn't a constraint for those towns.
I don't know the best towns for this in particular, but I do think you need to find yourself an advocate if the school will not help with an IEP. You have a right to have you child evaluated by the school to see if he/she qualifies for an IEP--all you have to do is ask and they must comply. If you're feeling pushed around, again, hire an advocate. That's all they do for a living.