It really bothers me when someone refinished the doors on the old cabinets; like running your finger nails down a brackboard, continuously!
$13,000 sounds like too much too; there are decend cabinets out there for that much.
Whether you stay or sell, you should get your money back.
Call some local Kitchen designers and get some quotes, look at the displays, you should be able to do this.
Benny Smith 412-498-7868