The simple answer is:

You have no "rights"...go find a single gentleman, you'll be much happier.

You were being supported for 4 yrs by a married man and you are suprised his family hates you? What did you expect? If this man wanted you to have rights to his money after death he would have made arrangements. Did he? If not, ask yourself why? Regardless, it is time to do what you should have done the second you found out that he was married and stand on your own two feet.

You should probably talk to an attorney, but if you aren't in his will then you are probably out of luck

Pam: As indicated by your profile, you are a realtor and therefore should know that this is NOT the appropriate forum for this question. Your situation requires legal advice and information for which the majority of us using this forum are licensed as realtors, not attorneys. You need to seek an attorney to respond to your question.
Tina Evans, Principal Broker

Why ask the same questions three times?