The most year round towns are Falmouth and Barnstable. Those two will be more along the lines of your descriptiion of where you live now.
I live in Falmouth. My wife and I help nice people find great homes.
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Here is an informative website about everything and anything in specific towns:
Here is the one for West Yarmouth:
As for golfing, this is the site I use when looking to play at a new course, a lot of great golf tips too!!
I wish you and your husband a vibrant and happy retirement!!
Is the home in Falmouth or West Yarmouth? Feel free to contact me and I can tell you more about either area.
In general, the Cape is a wonderful and very popular place to retire. We do have quite a few 'snow birds' here who leave for the coldest winter months, and the downtown areas do also slow down with that, but areas such as Falmouth stay pretty active.