A HOA by nature requires mandatory membership. A change to this would require the members to approve it. Generally, dissolution of a HOA would require a huge majority of members to ratify such action. I have never heard of a HOA letting one party withdraw, but that doesn't mean it hasn't been done I guess.
This is another reason why it's so important to know what you're getting into when you buy a specific piece of property.
IMHO the answer is "no."