Someone is not doing their job........in this case it appears that many people are not doing their jobs.
New Your State.....contact your state assembly representative and ask for their help. It's amazing what can be accomplished with a phone call and a conversation with an aide.
Step number 2, would be to contact the NYS Attorney General's Office.
You may need to retain another attorney to help you if your attorney is unresponsive. Attorneys' are required to handle escrow funds pursuant to very detailed regulations, and unfortunately I have seen cases where this does not happen. An independent legal review may be necessary.
Best of luck!
Peter A Harris
Licensed Associate Broker