Maybe your boyfriend wants the townhome because he doesn't want to mow the lawn!!!! ha
Look - the bottom line is....I think it's a lifestyle choice.......do you want the ability to live "carefree" and not worry about exterior maintenance, snow removal or lawn care? Or....do you want to have your own backyard where you can entertain or garden or add a patio or deck? Do you want to be able to paint your home any color you want, or follow the HOA rules? Do you want amenities that many condo communities offer?
If you're young and starting out, perhaps the townhome option is an easier transition into the responsibility of home ownership. I work with a lot of young couples that choose that option.
I suggest you both sit down and list your priorities........hopefully, they will mesh and you will make the decision that works for both of you.
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Long and Foster Real Estate Inc.