Although I am not of the Faith, the Serenity Prayer is wise and profound.
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
What you are experiencing is a very typical 'greiving' process. Understand you WILL go through all the stages whether you like it or not. The choice you have is how long you allow yourself to grieve.
Now, take a moment and recognize much of your mental, even subconscience, energy is expended in an effort to replace what you feel you lost. In essence, an attempt to bring your past into your present. This is ALWAYS a bad idea. You must choose to live and fully live in the present. If a life is fully lived, one lifetime is sufficient.
At the core of all enduring happiness is the ember of gratefullness. Give this ember more air. Bring it into the foreground. Celebrate that for which you have benefitted and are undeserving! I did not say recognize...I said CELEBRATE!
You will discover a life lived celbrating, a life knowing purpose will attract others. They too want to know the secret. Now your life, rather than suffering deficiency will thrive in abundance of vision and fullfullment because, in you season of greiving, you had the courage to celebrate.
Those who have sojourned with grief, those who have walked the mile of sorrow, are differant. Much diifferent than those who seek the comfort of joy, she chatters all the way. leaving them none the wiser for all she had to say.
The end of the journey reveals you bring your joy with you. It is the ember in your heart that no one can quench. Your joy can not be dependant on your location or circumstances. Your joy is always present, if you choose to give it life....'For I have but one chance to 'live' this moment, let me choose wisely. For THIS moment is ALL your have."
Best of success,
Annette Lawrence, Broker/Associate
Remax Realtec Group
Palm Harbor, FL
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We just moved to a different state (4th time in 10 years). We lost out on our first choice house and settled on the second option which was bigger and fancier, but the deal was too good to pass on. We are closing in two weeks and all i can do is find things wrong with it. When the kids and husband are at school/work, I've been finding myself really upset and missing the state where we moved from. This didn't happen the last few times. I was so excited to relocate to warmer weather, closer to my parents, etc, but this has been hard. How are you feeling now?
Moving is tough no matter how many times you do it. Good luck (and by the way many home buyers have similar feelings about home they see after they've purchased).
Put on your walkin shoes and meet some of your neighbors.
I think your emotions have nothing to do with Golf or the Exterior.
Particularly if the Interior is as nice as you say.
How about organizing a Block Party; send me an invitation!
You may want to consider learning to play golf. Golf is a fabulous game. Learning to play golf will not make you love your home, but it may help you love the area a little more. Learning to play golf will help you meet people. Perhaps the club has a women's league that you could join.
As far as learning to love your house, perhaps you should consider a make-over for one of the rooms. With 3600 square-feet, surely there is a room that you could make your sanctuary.
The landscaping is not too difficult to change either. Consider making an area outside too that you could enjoy.
One week is a short period of time and perhaps you just need a longer adjustment period as well.
Try to find some positive things about your new home and embrace the new opportunities that this new home and new area has presented to you.