A Deed of Trust is one of two instruments needed to perfect a lien on real property in North Carolina. If he had you sign a Power of Attorney at the time you did the refinancing, it may have stated that he has your approval and authority to sell the the home. North Carolina is tenancy by entirety, which means you jointly own the entire property together. There are a lot of variables including what state the property is in and what the Power of Attorney states. If you had an attorney, he should have been able to explain all of this to you. Also the real estate person has no real liability here. The attorneys are responsible for this and if there was a title insurance policy issued you may be able to collect from it there is a problem with the sale. Either way a couple of attorneys are not going to put their law license on the line over a few hundred dollars.
Find out who the realtor's broker is.... Contact them. Let them know that you made the realtor aware of the situation BEFORE closing and that he/she let it happen anyway.
You see, the broker is on the hook too.... And might be willing to help you get in touch with all of the right parties.
Some of the answers will say: "Hire a lawyer"..... and they are right. Do you ave a divorce attorney?
They can help you.