All good info you have supplied but I do have other questions to ask you. My focus is Ridgewood, Glen Rock, Wyckoff and HoHoKus so I am partial to these towns for schools, commute and town features.
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That being said, and looking at your parameters, I can also suggest Teaneck as a very good option that is affordable, offers a variety of housing styles and pretty neighborhoods, has great recreation programs for kids, and is 35 minutes away by NJ Transit bus. In addition, there is New Milford, River Edge, Maywood, Oradell, Leonia -- as you can see, there are choices!
As a realtor with nearly 30 years experience and one who is a longtime resident of Teaneck and raised four kids here, I would be happy to work with you -- give me a call or email me!
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