I agree with Tom about considering using a gay Realtor. It's suggested below that a real estate licensee can't help you. It's delicate area, but I know gay Realtors who focus on the gay market. I know Koreans who focus on the Korean market. And so on. You can't call it steering--because that's illegal. But you can tap into their knowledge of the area. And if a buyer has a particular need, it makes sense to do so.
Or in some other way consult the gay community in those areas (online forums, support groups, social groups) and get their opinions on those area.
Hope that helps.
The objective of the Fair Housing Act is to have real estate licensees (who are licensed to serve the public, by the way), landlords, housing and housing service providers give equal opportunity to housing and real estate services WITHOUT REGARD to the above classifications.
Basically, WE who are licensed by the state are obliged to treat you as a citizen and prospective homeowner or tenant, and not as a gay / straight / black / white / Catholic / Sunni / et cetera person.
Besides which, if you've ever moved around, you know that what's important is that you find community where you are moving, so call ahead, check out the social scene, make contacts there, and then hope to find a RealtorÂ® who treats you as a Person, rather than whatever subset of the population you can be identified with.
As Christine Moran correctly noted, realtors can not answer questions like these or it might be perceived as "steering." However, your question is valid... and my suggestion is to consider working with a gay realtor (several good websites to find gay real estate agents), who can probably best advise you on gay organizations/clubs, etc in the area. Talk to members of these groups and ask for their advice.
Good luck in your search!
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