You may have been subsequently accepted as a secondary offer to the primary, but you would have to agree to that position also, so you would know this if it happened.
If you do not have an accepted offer, then WI requires that your earnest money be returned to your as soon as it clears the bank.
I am quite sure that you feel like you are getting the "run around", but I believe that only you and change this perception with good questions directed at your agent. Trust that your agent will be forthright and honest....I certainly do.
Please remember I am not licensed in your state, and so, don't know the laws there. You may want to start with a local agent 1st...