Oh, good grief, yes, GET OUT!!!! If you have done nothing that's cost you any money so far, go, run in the opposite direction!!! It's never worth it to stick with somebody that bothers you that much. This transaction is too important and you need to build your team with people who you KNOW are in your corner. If you don't want to even TALK to that person, it's hard to do all of the things you have to do to buy your house. Same goes for your agent.
And, this should be a joyful experience!!! Discord like that only spoils it~
PS I will apologize for Trulia. Here in MN we are often confused with Michigan and Missouri So far I don't think Montana gets as much confusion with these two M states. The 203 is an FHA product and regardless of states, the rules are the same!
203k's plus DP assistance are challenging and take a very long time to close. If you have to start all over from scratch with a new lender there could be delays trying to meet your closing deadline. I do not know if this is true or not, but it is just something to think about.
Good luck and hope it all works out.
There is no harm in shopping around, but your ability to change may depend on what you have signed and any money that you have spent. What are the issues you are facing that causes you to want to strangle your LO?
Coldwell Banker Burnet
licensed MN Real Estate Broker