Debbie, in some way it depends on the quality of finishes you are going to use for kitchen, bathrooms etc.
You may want to check Cost VS. Value report printed yearly in the Remodeling magazine: http://www.remodeling.hw.net/2008/costvsvalue/division/middle-atlantic.aspx
It will give you an approximate cost of individual projects, like kitchen, bathroom, windows, siding etc.
I suspect that you will need about $200,000 and up to complete what you described.
Make sure you work with a reputable contractor.
Good luck.... more