From your question, I think you want to know where the money that the seller has agreed to pay towards closing costs can be applied. It can be applied to any and all closing costs. But only towards closing costs (not your down payment unless it is stated otherwise in the contract). Most loan programs will not allow for the seller to contribute any monies towards the down payment, just the closing costs only. Transfer and recordation taxes are normally split between the buyer and the seller (unless otherwise stated in the contract) in the state of Maryland and are considered part of your closing costs. So, if you are receiving $10,000 towards closing costs from the seller, it can pay recordation and transfer taxes since they are part of your closing cost. That money can only be applied towards your closing costs if it is stated that way in your contract. So, if your closing costs total only $9,600, it is most likely that the seller will only have to contribute up to that amount. If your closing costs are $10,600, you will be responsible for $600 of those costs and your downpayment, etc.
I hope that this helps answer your question. If I can be of further assistance, please feel free to contact me.
Depending on how the contract is written will determine who pays what. Your 3% based on what you have described will go towards split taxes, prepaids, etc. Basically anything on your settlement sheet up to 10k. If the contract says 3% PLUS seller to pay all recording taxes etc, then that would be over and above and could be more than your underwriter will allow. But whatever you end up paying for, you just get the first 10k towards your closing and you would be responsible for the remainder of your settlement costs.
Hope that helps!