Home Owner, Seattle, WA
If your primary concern is safety then. . . avoid every neighborhood except the West side of Magnolia, Blue Ridge, North Beach, Upper Queen Anne, Matthew's Beach, Laurelhurst, View Ridge, Madison Park, and/or Wedgewood. If I were renting or buying, I'd go for Magnolia. But your choice will also depend on where in Seattle your husband works as the commute can really vary depending on the neighborhood, what your price range is, and what amenities you want to live near. If you didn't care so much about crime you might want to check out Wallingford, Belltown, West Seattle (as close to the Sound as you can get), Mt. Baker, Phinney Ridge, Montlake, Madrona, Columbia City, Ballard, or Ravenna as these neighborhoods have a lot to offer. If your husband doesn't mind a commute of 1/2 hour or so, consider Bainbridge Island--extremely low crime and great place to live. Other outlying neighborhoods that you might want to consider if you want a more suburban feel include: Bellevue, Redmond, Issaquah, or Sammamish (to the East). If you want a great deal, consider Shoreline, Lake Forest Park, Bothell, Kenmore, Burien, DesMoines, or Federal Way, though I don't think crime rates are that great in any of those places.