Hmmm...well...who knows. Closing is tomorrow and we had to figure something else out since she would just not work with us. Yet SHE offered it! I'll keep you posted.
We do not know if your offer to purchase was below the bottom of the market. Bordering insulting to the seller.
We do not know how difficult it may have been for the listing agent to get the seller to even consider your offer.
There is simply to much we don't know to justify or imply any ethecal issue. There is too much we don't know.
Perhaps the listing agent is letting you know the precarious situation. She, by obligation of ethics to her seller can not tell you more. There is just too much we don't know.
If indeed another buyer is in the wings, she has an ethical obligation to net the most she can for her seller. As a service to you, she may be advising you, indirectly, your buyers offer may not be solid and if your buyer loves this home, they have another chance to demonstrate that. Again, there is too much we don't know.
It could be argued she has provided you unmerited favor from which you can better serve your buyer.
Just too much we don't know.