Hello Home Buyer. It sounds to me like you could use a dynamic buyers agent working for you. A buyers agent will be your advocate and help you not only through the transactional details of buying a home, but also help identify what it is you are looking for within a community (1) and then what you are looking for within a home(2). There are many places to find a good agent, first I would say is by referral of someone who has had a great experience with their agent. If you don't know anyone in the area, then going to open houses might be a good way to get a feel for who is out there and can help you.
I generally don't attend the showings on my listings, only becuase it seems to make most buyers more uncomfortable. However, I do have packets at the house about the neighborhood and community, I also have disclosures and utility information. I do volunteer to help the other agent with any needs they may have, but it's a tight line to walk between being proactive and not pushy.
I show my listings quite regularly because of my responsiveness and genuine interest in the people calling/emailing about my homes. Because of this I sell about 20% of my homes.
I don't know if that helps, but please feel free to continue dialogue with me. This should be an exciting process for you and if it's not, let's try to make it that way. I hope your search process improves.
Best regards. - Fri May 9, 2008