1) use a reputable, local lender referred to you by someone you know/ a trusted advisor;
2) new guidelines are stringent and if you having to confirm your assets to obtain the loan, and are disclosing your 401k as part of that process, then documentation will probably be required;
3) if you are working with anyone other than a lender that was referred to you, then get a second opinion before releasing such sensitive information;
4) BetterBusinessBureau can be a resource; also your local Chamber of Commerce - Wed Nov 19 2008, 13:05